A number of years ago, I attended a funeral. The man to whom we were saying goodbye had enjoyed a full and rich life.
He’d reached the age of 90 and was respected for having been both successful and honest. But he’d always been a strong man, a natural leader, a man who took charge of things.
He’d had a good marriage, raised a large family, been successful in business and held leadership roles in various civic and church organizations.
He was a man who commanded respect although he was sometimes feared for his strength.
His son, a priest, was presiding at his funeral. He began his homily this way: “Scripture tells us that 70 is the sum of a man’s years, 80 for those who are strong. Now, our dad lived for 90 years. Why the extra 10 years? Well, it’s no mystery really. It took God an extra 10 years to mellow him out! He was too strong and cantankerous to die at 80!”
He continued, “But during the last 10 years of his life, he suffered a series of massive diminishments. His wife died; he never got over that. He had a stroke; he never got over that. He had to be moved into an assisted living complex; he never got over that. All these diminishments did their work. By the time he died, he could take your hand and say, ‘Help me’.”
“He couldn’t say that from the time he could tie his own shoelaces until those last years. He was finally ready for heaven,” his son observed. “Now when he met St. Peter at the gates of heaven he could say ‘Help me!’ rather than tell St. Peter how he might better organize things.”
This story can help us understand Jesus’ teaching that the rich find it difficult to enter the kingdom of heaven while little children enter it quite naturally.
We tend to misunderstand both why the rich find it hard to enter the kingdom and why little children enter it more easily.
Why do little children enter the kingdom quite naturally? In answering this, we tend to idealize the innocence of little children, which can indeed be striking.
But that’s not what Jesus is holding up as an ideal here, an ideal of innocence that for us adults is impossible in any case. It’s not the innocence of children that Jesus praises; rather it’s the fact that children have no illusion of self-sufficiency.
Children have no choice but to know their dependence. They’re not self-sufficient and know that they cannot provide for themselves. If someone doesn’t feed them, they go hungry. They need to say, and to say it often, “Help me!”
It’s generally the opposite for adults, especially if we’re strong, talented and blessed with sufficient wealth. We easily nurse the illusion of self-sufficiency. In our strength, we more naturally forget that we need others, that we’re not self-reliant.
The lesson here isn’t that riches are bad. Riches – whether it’s money, talent, intelligence, health, good looks, leadership skills or flat-out strength – are gifts from God. They’re good.
It’s not riches that block us from entering the kingdom. Rather it’s the danger that, having them, we will more easily also have the illusion that we’re self-sufficient. We aren’t.
As Thomas Aquinas points out by the very way he defines God (as “Esse Subsistens” or “Self-sufficient Being”), only God does not need anyone or anything else. The rest of us do, and little children more easily grasp this than do adults, especially strong and gifted adults.
Moreover, the illusion of self-sufficiency often spawns another danger: Riches and the comfort they bring, as we see in the parable of the rich man who has a beggar at his door, can make us blind to the plight and hunger of the poor.
That’s one of the dangers in not being hungry ourselves. In our comfort, we tend not to see the poor.
And so, it’s not riches themselves that are bad. The moral danger in being rich is rather the illusion of self-sufficiency that seems to forever accompany riches.
Little children don’t suffer this illusion, but the strong do. That’s the danger in being rich, money-wise or otherwise.
How do we minimize that danger? By being generous with our riches.
Luke’s Gospel, while being the Gospel that’s hardest on the rich, is also the Gospel that makes most clear that riches aren’t bad in themselves.
God is rich. But God is prodigiously generous with that richness. God’s generosity, as we learn from the parables of Jesus, is so excessive that it’s scandalous. It upsets our measured sense of fairness. Riches are good, but only if they’re shared.
In Luke’s Gospel, Jesus praises the generous rich but warns the hoarding rich. Generosity is godlike; hoarding is antithetical to heaven.
And so, from the time we learn to tie our own shoelaces until the various diminishments of life begin to strip away the illusion of self-sufficiency, riches of all kinds constitute a danger. We must never unlearn the words, “Help me!”
Ron Rolheiser is a Missionary Oblate priest who is serving as president of the Oblate School of Theology in San Antonio, Texas. A version of this article first appeared on his website and is used with his permission. He can be contacted through his website, RonRolheiser.com, and you can find him on Facebook.